THE GRRRL CODES
  (beij beltrisi, 1993, based on bear and muff diva codes)
PA: Political Action factor
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 !!! in-your-face lesbian; rainbow flags, freedom rings, stickrbs    everywhere
  !! when duty calls, she's there to kick ass and take names
   ! bites her tongue; active only when it's crucial; generally supportive
   * strong but silent type; sends checks to 'family' projects
  ** keeps up on issues but doesn't feel moved to be active
 *** being a lesbian is about #20 on list of who she is
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SF: Silk/Flannel ca:tor
 !!! cutting-edge trendy, city slicker--silk is abundants; armani's best   gal
  !! ms. prep-- give her izod and tweed or give her death
   ! hippie chick or earth mama
   ~ plain ol' comfy clothes
   * ms. jock--always dressed for the gym
  ** punk rock grrrl--dressed to slam dance; biker jacket's been through   hell
 *** cowgrrrl-- flannel, flannel, flannel
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TP: Tattoo/Piercing factor
 !!! inked up and pierced all over the place
  !! either/or --- lots of tats OR lots of piercings
   ! maybe 1 or 2 tats and a nosering or earring
   * no tats, pierced ears more than a couple of times
  ** no tats; pierced ears, just one hole per, lobes only
 *** no tats, ears aren't even pierced
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F: Furriness factor
 !!! sister bearrr!  armpits and legs absolutely furry; fur repels razors
  !! prefers to go furry; will shave on occasion, but she doesn't like to
   ! furry in winter; shaves legs in summer so fur won't show in shorts
   * comfy as shaggy or shaven
  ** may skip shaving for a few days, but generally smooth
 *** shaven, smooth, and silky--always
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B/F: Butch/Femme (more internal)
 !!! so butch she may get you pregnant
  !! tough grrrl--you're safe out with her at night
   ! butch "gentleman"--opens car doors, pays for dinner
   * femme, but she knows how to check the oil in her car
  ** a lady among ladies
 *** makes a southern belle seem butch
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A: Androgyny factor (more external)
 !!! mister ms.--total gender-bender
  !! masculine woman; occasionally called "sir" by mistake
   ! boyish grrrl
   * grrrlish boy
  ** feminine woman; feels naked without make-up
 *** give her high heels and lipstick, or give her death
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V Vice factor (specify:  s, dk, or dg)
 !!! party grrrl--smoking, drinking, drugs and lots of 'em
  !! smokes cigs, everything else waits for the weekend, then look out
   ! social drinker, may smoke
   * may take a sip of your beer or wine, tolerates other stuff
  ** don't smoke around her; she's not thrilled about the other stuff
 *** tee-totaler; don't even talk about it around her
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B Body factor
 !!! totally chiselled, rock hard muscles all over; her muscles have   muscles
  !! buff, but not to extremes
   ! waiflike but strong
   * padded over muscles; deceptively strong
  ** cushioned and curvy
 *** absolutely rotund and soft as pillows; goddess
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G Go! factor
 !!! is she on a LOT of speed?
  !! busy grrrl-- if she stopped now, she'd skid for a week
   ! inclined to be on the go, but enjoys a night in now and then
   * would rather be home, but will go out from time to time
  ** ahhhhh---home sweet home; why go out?
 *** is she breathing?
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O Out factor
 !!! way out and announces it at every opportn ity
  !! generally out; very much so around 'family'
   ! knows that others know; is okay with that--treats it as general
knowledge
   * out to a friend or two
  ** "don't ask/don't tell"
 *** in the farthest corner of the closet
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S Sound (or Scream or Silent) factor when making love
 !!! a veritable screamer; wakes up neighbors
  !! lots of moaning and perhaps a punctuated cry here and there
   ! growly grrrl
   * soft moaner
  ** one little "eep!"
 *** anyone home?
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N Nesting factor
 !!! "commitment" isn't in her vocabulary
  !! has a limited "harum"
   ! dates around; may settle down "someday"
   * dates one woman at a time; looking for The One
  ** after a month, it's a marriage
 *** brings u-haul on second date, sometimes first
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K Kinkiness factor
 !!! anything goes, and the wierder the better; has own elaborate toys
  !! will try anything once and usually many times
   ! kinky to a point; "creative" in bed
   * has a few ubn quirks
  ** comfortably vanilla
 *** holding hands makes her blush
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H: Head-case factor
 !!!  needs a prozac the size of texas
  !! crazy, but in a "good" way
   ! usually pretty stable; may "freak" from time to time
   * pretty stable; if she had any baggage, it's dealt with now
  ** "dear abby"
 *** so together it's scarey
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DS: o.m/Sub factor
 !!! 100% mistress, baby; on your knees coz she's in charge
  !! likes to be in control of everything most of the time
   ! strongly in charge but kind of likes it when you melt her down
   ~ likes it equal
   * likes it when you're in charge but kind of likes to take the reins   from
time to time
  ** definitely likes to let go and let you be in control
 *** 100% slave, baby; absolutely at your mercy
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TF: Touchy/Feely factor
 !!! unless you're doin' the deed, dondt touch her
  !! cuddles--for awhile--in bed only; period
   ! will hold you if you need to be held and sometimes you don't even   have
to ask
  * likes to cuddle; will grab your hand to hold it
  ** affectionate as hell; doesn't mind it in public
 *** can't keep her hands off of you, no matter where you are
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R Romance factor
 !!! can't even spell it
  !! doesn't understand it, but is trainable
   ! roses for your birthday and maybe she'll cook dinner for you   sometime
   * likes candlelit dinners and all the standard stuff
  ** brings you roses "just because" and may even send you a book of   poetry
 *** deep-dish romantic; writes her own poetry just for you, makes   EVERYTHING
seem romantic
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C "Cultured" factor
 !!! culture is going to see the monster truck rally
  !! culture is a movie---hopefull things will explode
   ! culture is a stephen king book
   * culture is emily dickenson and robert frost
  ** culture is that wagner "kill da rabbit" song
 *** culture is the opera, and she has season tickets